I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(
 

Ok, so I have no hobbies or other interests like sports. The only thing that excites me is spending time with SYTs

So every weekend I will spend my time on one of the following activitiy - cat150, local FLs, massage with happy endings, occasional decent massage, ktv session & even paid datings

it doesn't always involve sex, but it will always be some close physical contact with pretty gals. this is like the only effective way for me to de-stress.

althou some people say it's a waste of money and leaves u emotionally empty, I always feel quite satisfied after each session. It gives me the strength to continue my mundane life and looking forward to my next session of intimacy with a pretty gal

Am I abnormal?

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You a man with deep pockets so No worries , You're absolutely normal . the ones abnormal are usually those without deep pocket .

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that's the problem bro. I am just an average wage earner :(

the money aspect is still ok. coz I dun spend like until I have no savings or need to borrow $.

my only concerns are why am I not like others, have healthy hobbies like sports. sometimes I even skip meetups with frens and family... coz I jus wan spend my time at spa or a session with a FL

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Care to share how old are you ? You have to understand , this is just probably just a part of your must experiencing through at this stage of your journey in life . maybe these are exactly what you need at this stage of your life .
You might found yourself a newfound love at the next stage .

Anyway definitely not a abnormal for a man to spend money on accompany / companion .

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You are not abnormal, just too lonely and want girls company. Everybody's needs is different.

Based on ur behaviour i think u prefer a partnar in life. Instead of paid dating, why don't u get a wife and quit going to brothel.

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If this is what makes you happy and not burning your pocket. Just go ahead

Are you single and earning 5 figures a month?

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Perhaps i can define this situation in a much better way. You are the photocopy of mine. Yes, exactly same. I would say ditto copy.
I can explain my self and you can decide if you are same as mine or different.
I never had girlfriend before. Why? I would say i am not rich, not handsome (though not ugly, sometimes my few friends say i can get more than average personality if i go to gym and get some muscles), average personality, average looks. So, i was lonely and i am lonely. I explored ways to keep myself somehow happy by doing such acts that can serve as tonic for one or two weeks, then again get same or other medication for the next few weeks etc. One of these acts is massage. I go for massage after every 2 weeks and spend a lot out of my little pocket money just to get some relaxation, inner satisfaction, getting some smiles from Massage lady, getting some warm touches, and feel the warmth of her hands (no HJ or sex services at all). Sometimes i go outside to nightlife areas and enjoy the lively life (although not involved in nay sex activities there), sometimes go for clubbing for short time, sometimes talk to random persons just to spend some time that can relax you from your stressed life, browse on this forum and read treads if getting bored and have no other things to do etc.

You are doing the same things but you go for KTV and paid dating too because you have the privileged to earn more and then spend more hahahaha. I would say its because you are too lonely from your adulthood, never get a good girl that really give you the feeling of being in relation etc. And i would say now it would be difficult for you to find girlfriend and start a stable relation with one lady only because you developed the traits to find peace outside no matter how much you have to spend for that. It would take a long time to be stable in a relation with one lady. Its my opinion and i gave it based on my experience.
Disclaimer: When i said finding peace outside and meeting with ladies etc it does not mean i am talking about sex activities. For sex activities, anyone can go to brothels and get short term pleasure by spending even little amount. For me, having sex with working ladies is not pleasure at all and i dont like to do these practices.
Thank you for spending time to read my views.

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hahaha i mistakenly quote you in my above mentioned post instead of TS.

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Haiz... women are your hobby. It's a time-honored hobby. As long as it makes you (and me as well) happy, just do it! YOLO!

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I rather spend money on bto flats as long term investments. After long term investments, u can do whatever u like. And dun expect Heng Swee Keat to help u. Nothing useful by listening or following what he talks or does. Nice presentation, all talk and no action.

These ministers go Gleneagles or Mount Elizabeth hospitals. Even small injury also can get mri ct scans free of charge without any restrictions. Average or poor ppl go Nuh, Changi Hospital. Even mri ct scans need approval from doctors irregardless of the severity of injury. Go have a look at the nuh reviews or complaints on facebook.

And dun bother to talk to me about corporate rules funboi. Only some topics require ur expertise. If u insist on replying or talking loudly, go talk to imh or nuh or changi hospital, challenge and talk to them first. If u can win them, then ur talk is useful. Otherwise ur talk is beautifully rubbish.

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thanks for all the sincere replies/sharing. really appreciate them. esp @leong26 @funboi @maleescort7 @pictionary

a lot of people asked me the same question- why not find a proper
long-term GF & get married?

the reason is simple - all those women who likes me, I really cant accept. and all those whom I like, are totally not interested in me :(

yes I admit I'm a sucker for looks. I got quite a number of matches from dating apps, but those who are chatty/enthusiastic to meet up, are usually either dino-bus or quite matured (33 & above) or those auntie/milf looking kind. I also have a female colleagues who is interested in me, but looks is 4/10 type

I'm not asking for those gorgeous, FHM model grade, but preferably slim and pretty

sinkie OL, as long as averagely pretty, is damm tough to chase already. most of them have sky high expectations.

I even dun mind those pretty SYT who works in retail shopping malls... u know like those hair salon shampoo gal or sales gal or hotel receps. some are quite pretty :D but even they are very difficult to chase. most of them got many guys showering them with attention/gifts etc

and generally I prefer local or m'sian gals. not thai or viet. which makes my target much hard it seems :(

Money is a considerable factor for a woman in Singapore. Especially Singapore. The next is body. If you havea tummy. You need to learn to burn it. Lastly is words. Looks is not entirely important. Look at the acceptance of skin colors especially with Chinese women.

I suggest you practise your skill without paid transactions. If you want to target beauty. Learn to participate where they are. Yoga? Business conference?

If I were you. I'll attend business conference at marina Bay or suntec. Approach those who are modelling for their products.

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There's a chinese saying about Love . 爱情是一件可遇但 不可求的事 .
If you haven't met one then it's mean that one hasn't met with you yet .
Call it fate or Destiny , if it's yours it will be yours , if it's not then it will never will .
Like you had said , you don't mind those SYT meimei in salon or such , very hard , difficult , of course where got so easy correct , this is life man .

But did you ever give it a try and step up the game to tackle them ?
There are so many syt , fail one try the next one then continue to try again if those syt are really what you had been dreaming and desire of , until you decide to face reality .

Look around you , even big fat ugly man woman had takers . no problem if you still can't met that true love which you had been fantasies all along , one day u will likely lower the expectations of finding one .
Exercise patience and continue to look around and make effort for that first move for now . who knows what will happen for sure ? No one does , In life ,especially when come to these things , To have or not to have, To be or not to be , are just one if those things which can't be ask for , let nature do its job , Time had all the answer .

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What exactly are you hoping for in this thread? Validation that you are normal? Because if that is all you are look for here, then in answer to your question in your first post, I can say there is there is 100% nothing wrong with you. It is normal to desire beautiful partners. And seeing as you can't get anything more than "4/10"s, "dino-bus" or matured ladies to match you on dating apps, there is nothing wrong with you spending your own money for the company you desire.

So congrats. You are not abnormal. If you are happy, and if this is truly what you want out of life, "Keep Calm and Carry On". But if this thread is a low-key cry for help because you are unhappy with your life, well dude, always remember that while you can't control the hand that life has dealt you, you can control what you choose to do with the cards you have.

Its quite simple really. Just like how you can't accept a "4/10", "8/10"s will not accept you unless you are at their level. And I do not mean this purely in terms of your looks or SES. If you have a strong personality, or a great sense of humor, or are a devoted/faithful man, that could bump you up to a "8/10" in the eyes of some ladies out there.

Work on yourself, and put yourself out there again. You'll never know what you're gonna get. After all, "Life is like a box of chocolates" right?

Good luck.

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Men like syt, when one 18 like 18 syt, when one 50 still like 18syt!
Where your pocket is deep, many bros out there would love to be in your shoes..

Relationship is not cheap either, money* aside, need much effort to maintain

* buying birthday, anniversary gift, dine out valentine, etc
If have kids, tuition, milk powder, etc

With TS carefree lifestyle, as long as TS is happy, everyone lead life differently, some got married, some stay single and some just wanna live with pets or even give up on opposite sex.

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It is good to have a soulmate that sticks with you through thick and thin

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If you like it just go ahead, you only live once

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Agreed. Just go ahead.

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以财交者，财尽而交绝
以色交者，华落而爱渝

looks don't last, when a chiobu becomes buchio, does it mean that u gonna dump her and find the next pretty girl?

its not an issue if u have deep pockets, but when your money dry up, so will they

focus on becoming specialized in your field of work
focus on a new hobby
focus on exercise
focus on reading a wide variety of topics
focus on managing your addiction, rather than always giving in to it

there is more to life than just having a pretty girl in your lap

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want young
want beautiful and sexy
want free
but prefer local or malaysian girls only

These 4 combinations, if ask u to give up 1, which would it be?

my advice to u is to open up. SG & MY are only so small in this world. Open up to other nationalities and u'll find endless possibilities. No viet or thai? How about atb? Laos? pinoys? indonesians? Russians or east europeans? Europeans? Americans? Latinos?
The world is so big.
U're just limiting your choices & possibilities by staying at home (i mean like in SG & MY only).

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For me just want a chio one will do

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If you are sincere, you can get a girl that value you

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Same here as well

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Try to cut down your spending bro

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Good to have more choices :)

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My little pov here

I assume you are still in ur 20+ TS? Everyone Wan a pretty or beautiful Wife... I mean who doesn’t? But if you are down and out will she still be the one supporting you throughout the tough time? To me it more den a pretty face in order to get together and getting married...

Think of ur 1 fav gal u really like or even pop star... imagine she is ur Wife now? Everyday u fucking her brains out... after 1 year? 2 year? Or even 3 year? Dun u even get bored of it?

Go have a gd thought abt it

Cheers

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I felt quite emotional after reading your advice. U are absolutely bro! I can't bring myself to like the 4/10 women who are interested in me. In the same way, none of those 7/10 syts will give me a chance. coz I'm simply not at their level

actually I noticed that the guys they choose are always quite high standards one - tall, above average looking and have a promising career like lawyer or SAF officer. these gals aren't exactly looking for rich men only. it's more like they want a trophy bf/husband that they can show off on their social media platform (FB, IG)

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thanks for all the advice. u guys are right. this is like a short term drug actually. I'm paying for a drug (SYT's companion) to get over my pain for my failure in life

I know this is not a long-term solution and I will try to manage my "addiction". I cant quit totally... occasional cat150 session is still needed to release stress, otherwise I will go crazy lol

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For a young guy always good to focus on career first. Join social activities. Hv group projects of interest. Meet new friends. Enjoy the crushes. Immerse in chasing and being chased. Once u meet the one u will know and u can build ur life together.