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6) If HDB tell me have to take back the flat I may then choose to apply for seperation and wait it out, till either she or me can take over the flat. During seperation are we allowed to date other people?
7) I'm an insurance manager running my own team of agents and currently she's one of them but doesn't need to do much sales. Means her income statement is less than 20k annually but I 'pay' her a cut of what we earn as part of helping me train my agents and doing my admin. My income statement is about 180k annually. Is this bad for me? Does this mean she can claim maintenance based on what I'm 'paying' her (average about $1500 monthly) every month? She spends what she earns because I take care of all expenses.
8) Should I then encourage her to go out and work and let her earn her own income? Since the affair she has been thinking about quitting my side here just in case we decide to spilt and she cannot tahan working with me anymore.
9) Should I also let her start to pay for some of the expenses so she's more 'independent' of me and thus have less of a claim for maintenance?
Appreciate all the kind advice! |
6) Yes you may. You are separated. But if you want to save the marriage, now is the time.
7) You are mostly correct, but it is worst than you have described. Your employer-employee relationship with her attributes to the $1,500, but that has nothing to do with her maintenance and it may even be taken as a potential lost of income after divorce. You earn $180K and she has been following a lifestyle with household income of >$200K annually. Her lawyer will argue to maintain that with a percentage discount. Aggravated by her potential lost of earnings (depending on her educational level), I forsee the region of $5k/mth as asking price to be negotiated downwards...
8) & 9) Why ask? You are emotionally confused. It doesn't help and would only make things worst.
Do you want to save the marriage or not?
I have went through a divorce and I treasure my marriage today.
No matter how ugly your wife is, how poor your wife is, how unreasonable your wife is, you made the choice when you ROM. Because there is an element of love whether you admit it or not. We are men, and we easily fall in love in the other women.... that's men. The rest is how we control our emotions and leave those to one-night-stands, and sustain our marriage.