Hi brothers and sisters, this is my first post, so I'm gonna ask a serious question....
Background story:
A is a guy we met for one year plus, and he's attentive, sweet and stable for me. His mentality is much more mature than B's and also looking for someone to stable down with. Down sides are that he don't really trust me and is overly possessive. He always showered me with gifts and care... He's been wooing me since we met. My feelings for him is neutral but I feel loved by him.
B is a guy I knew for many years and been together with since poly days... He's not the sweetest bf ever and he is open, trusty and direct with me. Which also means we fight often cause of his straightforwardness and partly also due to many differences in our mindsets. He is still not ready to settle down at all. Over the years, he has taken me for granted and doesn't make any effort to treat me well anymore, and I'm considered his least priority presently. but I still love him a lot... We broken up recently due to fights...
(Many friends discourage me to choose B)
Now I have to make a firm decision ... Should I follow my heart or brain?
Should I patch back with B or accept A?
Who should I choose in the end?