Q & A: Taking a 2nd wife...

[ESebastian]

TS,
You will be opening up a Pandora box of troubles and problems coming your way. Leave some space for yourself if either one of them decides to complain. In times like these, woman are no longer like in the past, they can be very independent and you will never know when they will snap and throw in the towel.
Having said all these, I hope all the best for you and wish you success. Remember to share your story here.

[markck]

Bro,

impossible in singapore so don't try. First your wife won't agreed. Second your mistress will become more demanding and want more of your time, complain and maybe want to have your kid.

[redtemo]

if u can achieve a balance then ok

but once ur first wife sues bigamy..ifs over for u..world of trouble

[tcrecruit]

Under SG law, bigamy is offense no matter with consent or not. The state can decide to charge u even if both women dun complain if it is somehow learnt by the police. On the other hand, I one really wants to do it, I guess it's just a matter or being rich enough. I don't mean just being able to afford, but really rich enough. When both women think about how much u are giving to them and how much they stand to lose I they sour the thing, they usually keep quiet. Look at Macau king Stanley Ho.... Hehehhe

[justcurious29]

Originally Posted by brokuan0

Hi guys,

have this old girlfriend re appearing in my life & i have told her im married. They both know each other. This old girlfriend has said okay to be the 2nd wife.

Anyone has approach the wife & ask whether can take another?

Hope to listen to success stories & how to go about with it.

Thanks in advance for help.

btw im chinese so no marriage contract can be drawn up.

Your old girlfriend is willing to become your 2nd wife. That's great!
Asking your wife to accept your 2nd wife? That's disaster! No way!

[jacky43]

Possible b4 1965, that period it is normal to have 2 or more. I remembered in the late 70s, my old market place, there was a man with 2 wives. Yes! Everybody knows, the family was selling vegatables in market.

This age, so long 3 parties agreed, who cares? Oh! I do have a suggestion to improve this country falling birth rate. Maybe the law allow second wives, we know people health is not as good as 100 yrs ago.

So if each wive could have 2 childrens? That will be 4 childrens, of course social issues, i know family issues too. But this can be worked out.

[FuzzyFusion]

WHy the burden? I think there is going to be hell loads of problems now and future...

[Toyota Honda]

I feel very sad for your 1st wife. What do you take her for? And to think you get consent from your parents before approaching your 1st wife. What are you trying to show or prove? Get support than attack?

If you steady, you go get the approval from your 1st wife's parents 1st then come and say. Who do you think you really are to be doing this? 30yo acting so irresponsibly and coward.

[FuzzyFusion]

Originally Posted by Toyota Honda

If you steady, you go get the approval from your 1st wife's parents 1st then come and say. Who do you think you really are to be doing this? 30yo acting so irresponsibly and coward.

Originally Posted by tcrecruit

On the other hand, I one really wants to do it, I guess it's just a matter or being rich enough. I don't mean just being able to afford, but really rich enough. When both women think about how much u are giving to them and how much they stand to lose I they sour the thing, they usually keep quiet. Look at Macau king Stanley Ho.... Hehehhe

Yup Yup Yup... TS why finding trouble?? Look at it this way, unless you got money many many many many, or else sibei jialat next time. And nowadays, you think woman are stupid? sigh...... Bro bro....
you want everyone to agree.... start with wife 1st.... if she nod head, then what other people say also no use. next is, you must earn 1x many many many $$$$ per mth.

[samsam33]

Many things you need to consider first before you think you can enjoy with 2 ladies

1. Has your wife agreed to it? Don't think any sg wife would say ok to share husband. You should be very worry if she said ok - that could be the first sign she has given you the green hat

2. Have you ask yourself why suddenly your old gf wants to be your 2nd wife. I advised you observe her for a while, esp if you've not seen her for long. Your nightmare could begin if she happens to be very deep in debts and by becoming your 2nd wife and stay with you, her creditors start to look for you.

3. Have you look at yourself to check if you're more handsome than Tom Cruise or you're so good in bed that women who tried it cannot forget it and die die must try? Many mistress would start off as saying they don't mind being 2nd, 3rd or whatever. Many would say they don't even want your property, they just love you and want a little of your time. Promised this, promised that but after a while, want this, want that.

Originally Posted by brokuan0

Hi guys,

have this old girlfriend re appearing in my life & i have told her im married. They both know each other. This old girlfriend has said okay to be the 2nd wife.

Anyone has approach the wife & ask whether can take another?

Hope to listen to success stories & how to go about with it.

Thanks in advance for help.

btw im chinese so no marriage contract can be drawn up.

[samsam33]

Well, even if you do that, only the first wife has full legal status in Singapore. This explain why in Singapore, although there are many wealthy malays and muslim, they only have 1 wife in Singapore. Very few sg wives would allow 2nd wife and sg men are usually henpecked.

Likewise, not many malays these days want to be 2nd wives. Hence even syariah law allows one to marry 4, if you see the case in sg, usually the men would have 1 wife and the rest, mistresses, gfs, fbs

Originally Posted by andyyy

possible to convert to islam and legally go by syariah law in Singapore to marry more wives?

[Lionrod32]

Hmmmmmmmmmm ..... Wife ..........minefield
Hmmmmmmmmmm ..... Second wife ....... Boom boom boom (mines exploded)

[sinddd]

Hello friend,

Firstly, have you spared a thought for your wife's feelings? How will she be able to accept sharing her hubby with another woman? Your thoughts are just all about "i want, i want and i want" only... How much do you actually love your wife?

Secondly, you actually have the cheek to ask your ex-gf to approach your wife on this??? U really want a 2nd wife, then go tell your wife and face the music! BE A MAN AND STOP HIDING BEHIND A WOMAN!!!

[mentholfresh]

TS, u not satisfied with mono sound nagging huh?

so u are thinking of getting another one under the same roof??

so that u can have stereo sound, one nag on (L) side, one nag on (R) side.

Like that shiok huh?

[Kosh]

Bro you are asking for trouble if you accept heras 2nd wife.

It rarely that a woman will share her man w another woman and let alone say live under the same roof peacefully wo any quarrels or fights.
You will b stuck in the middle btw 2 women if quarrels start.

That will add to more headaches and problems for you in future.

Is there any agenda bhind this old Gf who is willingly b ur 2nd wife
Think over carefully b4 u agree to take her in and b4 u approach ur wife abt this issue.