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Old 02-10-2014, 01:56 PM
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Hi brothers and sisters, this is my first post, so I'm gonna ask a serious question....

Background story:

A is a guy we met for one year plus, and he's attentive, sweet and stable for me. His mentality is much more mature than B's and also looking for someone to stable down with. Down sides are that he don't really trust me and is overly possessive. He always showered me with gifts and care... He's been wooing me since we met. My feelings for him is neutral but I feel loved by him.


B is a guy I knew for many years and been together with since poly days... He's not the sweetest bf ever and he is open, trusty and direct with me. Which also means we fight often cause of his straightforwardness and partly also due to many differences in our mindsets. He is still not ready to settle down at all. Over the years, he has taken me for granted and doesn't make any effort to treat me well anymore, and I'm considered his least priority presently. but I still love him a lot... We broken up recently due to fights...
(Many friends discourage me to choose B)




Now I have to make a firm decision ... Should I follow my heart or brain?

Should I patch back with B or accept A?



Who should I choose in the end?
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Old 02-10-2014, 02:13 PM
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Re: Choose who? A or B

Choose C?
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Old 02-10-2014, 02:22 PM
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Re: Choose who? A or B

ask yurself r u ready to settle down? in a relationship there r ups n dwns, do consider carefully
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Re: Choose who? A or B

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Now I have to make a firm decision ... Should I follow my heart or brain?

Should I patch back with B or accept A?

Who should I choose in the end?
They're neither for you

A, main problems as below quoted

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Down sides are that he don't really trust me and is overly possessive.
This will link to fights and upset both parties.

So is better you wait for the right ones to appear like johnbass ?
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Re: Choose who? A or B

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Hi brothers and sisters, this is my first post, so I'm gonna ask a serious question....
You can open a same content over in Matters of the Heart section to get more response from other viewers. But your contents need to wait for approval by moderators within 48 hours or so.

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So is better you wait for the right ones to appear like johnbass ?
Right One my backside lah.
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Right One my backside lah.
This pukimak is The Farked One.

U ok a not?
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Think 10-50 years down the road and you have your answer.
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U need someone to talk to is it?
Lai, I entertain u... When I have time hor.
For now u can carry on talking to yourself or... Suck thumb.

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Need real advice guys?....
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Re: Choose who? A or B

TS the real question you have to ask yourself is which guy u love more ? Or which guy love you more than the other guy?
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Re: Choose who? A or B

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Background story:

A is a guy we met for one year plus, and he's attentive, sweet and stable for me. His mentality is much more mature than B's and also looking for someone to stable down with. Down sides are that he don't really trust me and is overly possessive. He always showered me with gifts and care... He's been wooing me since we met. My feelings for him is neutral but I feel loved by him.


B is a guy I knew for many years and been together with since poly days... He's not the sweetest bf ever and he is open, trusty and direct with me. Which also means we fight often cause of his straightforwardness and partly also due to many differences in our mindsets. He is still not ready to settle down at all. Over the years, he has taken me for granted and doesn't make any effort to treat me well anymore, and I'm considered his least priority presently. but I still love him a lot... We broken up recently due to fights...
(Many friends discourage me to choose B)
Pple here can only give u advices but its all up to u who would u want to be with. Follow ur heart who do u love most n whom love u d most?
Some qns u might want to consider:
1) do u wish to settle down now ? If yes, i think u have d answer.
2) are u willing to accept someone for all ur life who is possessive n dun really trust u?
3) what makes Guy A dun trust u? Is there something that u hide from him b4?

I believe u still love Guy B more cos u knew him longer than Guy A. But since he treat u for granted n does not make any effort in the relationship. Do u think this love will blossom?

Each guy has their pros n cons. Difference in mindsets as each of u grew up in different family background n environment.
Choose wisely
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Re: Choose who? A or B

TS

Before we start.... how old are you? early, mid or late 20s, early, mid or late 30s?

getting into relationship with A or getting back with B
if u are early/mid 20s then... why not try a new relationship?
if things don't works out, u r still young

planning to get married to either A or B
if u are mid/late 30s then.... u want someone that treat u like shit or someone that treasure u
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Re: Choose who? A or B

Neither..

Guy A -not trusting n too possessive, may have issues in future.
Doesn't help that your feelings for him is just neutral.

Guy B -u love him but he doesn't appreciate n takes u for granted.
Unless he changes his mindset towards u, dun see u being happy in the long term.

If it was me, I wouldn't just "settle" for someone, just for the sake of settling down.
You only get one shot at this, so do use it wisely

Good luck!
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Re: Choose who? A or B

why dont start by asking yourself what is it that you really want and what you can offer in return.

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