How I became a cheongster

[alleycat]

Never in my lifetime would I have ever thought of being a cheongster. Not until 4 years ago.

Sex with wife was quite alright before kids came into our lives. Average probably around 4 times a month. While trying to conceive for 2nd kid, we did it every other day. It almost became a chore. However, once we had our 2nd kiddo, her libido dropped drastically.

I would get rejected by her tons of times for sex. It got so bad that we had sex once in a year.

Once. In a year.

You can imagine how bad I needed it. So I turned to GL for help. I’m thankful for such establishments because I just might harm another woman should I let my lust get the better of me. Yes I DIY often, but the feeling of sex is different than using hands I guess. At least for me.

At first, I would be filled with guilt after doing the deed in GL. But as my buddy told me, since I can’t get my lust satiated at home, its better to seek elsewhere. Think of it as seeking professional help.

After a while of cheonging, indeed I do not feel so bad after all. I still return home as a loving husband and doting father. I’ll just treat this GL thing as my side hobby. In fact, I go to GL only once every 3 months, when I figured I really needed ‘professional help’.

Just sharing my story. I believe a lot of guys face the same issue as I do.

[Woodworth]

Originally Posted by alleycat

Never in my lifetime would I have ever thought of being a cheongster. Not until 4 years ago.

Sex with wife was quite alright before kids came into our lives. Average probably around 4 times a month. While trying to conceive for 2nd kid, we did it every other day. It almost became a chore. However, once we had our 2nd kiddo, her libido dropped drastically.

I would get rejected by her tons of times for sex. It got so bad that we had sex once in a year.

Once. In a year.

You can imagine how bad I needed it. So I turned to GL for help. I’m thankful for such establishments because I just might harm another woman should I let my lust get the better of me. Yes I DIY often, but the feeling of sex is different than using hands I guess. At least for me.

At first, I would be filled with guilt after doing the deed in GL. But as my buddy told me, since I can’t get my lust satiated at home, its better to seek elsewhere. Think of it as seeking professional help.

After a while of cheonging, indeed I do not feel so bad after all. I still return home as a loving husband and doting father. I’ll just treat this GL thing as my side hobby. In fact, I go to GL only once every 3 months, when I figured I really needed ‘professional help’.

Just sharing my story. I believe a lot of guys face the same issue as I do.

i feel your bro. Once i was married but yeah sex went downhill. Eventually divorced and back to the chionging scene. Thai disco, geylang, sbf, overseas sex trips with buddies.

[MongkutV]

everyone has their reasons. just be safe when playing the field.

[geminiking]

lust bro...lust.......

[kockerel]

Thanks for sharing, bro

[Renxi]

Originally Posted by geminiking

lust bro...lust.......

Of course la, if not then love meh?

[Ruppu]

Originally Posted by Woodworth

i feel your bro. Once i was married but yeah sex went downhill. Eventually divorced and back to the chionging scene. Thai disco, geylang, sbf, overseas sex trips with buddies.

same here too, damn sian

[SumoWrestler]

Originally Posted by MongkutV

everyone has their reasons. just be safe when playing the field.

Correct be safe

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by geminiking

lust bro...lust.......

When it comes to sex humans are driven by their instincts just as other species are.

Animals don't need to be taught how to have sex or how often it should be performed. It is programmed into the genetic code.

When a bitch is on heat all the male dogs in the neighborhood fight to fuck the daylights out of her and the strongest and most dominant usually wins the contest.

That is how the process is supposed to take place and the end result is that the best sperm is passed on while weaker genes fall by the wayside.

When it comes to humans Christianity and similar religions screwed things up. The idea of one male and one female bonding for life and remaining faithful forever was never the intention of our maker. Man was supposed to make every effort to spread his seed far and wide and the more powerful the man was the further afield his genes would end up.

The world is in a mess. It needs a clean reinstall not just a reboot.

[Justin Bieber]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

When it comes to sex humans are driven by their instincts just as other species are.

Animals don't need to be taught how to have sex or how often it should be performed. It is programmed into the genetic code.

When a bitch is on heat all the male dogs in the neighborhood fight to fuck the daylights out of her and the strongest and most dominant usually wins the contest.

That is how the process is supposed to take place and the end result is that the best sperm is passed on while weaker genes fall by the wayside.

When it comes to humans Christianity and similar religions screwed things up. The idea of one male and one female bonding for life and remaining faithful forever was never the intention of our maker. Man was supposed to make every effort to spread his seed far and wide and the more powerful the man was the further afield his genes would end up.

The world is in a mess. It needs a clean reinstall not just a reboot.

The strongest desire always win. Can't be more poignantly described 👍🏼👍🏼

[alleycat]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

When it comes to sex humans are driven by their instincts just as other species are.

Animals don't need to be taught how to have sex or how often it should be performed. It is programmed into the genetic code.

When a bitch is on heat all the male dogs in the neighborhood fight to fuck the daylights out of her and the strongest and most dominant usually wins the contest.

That is how the process is supposed to take place and the end result is that the best sperm is passed on while weaker genes fall by the wayside.

When it comes to humans Christianity and similar religions screwed things up. The idea of one male and one female bonding for life and remaining faithful forever was never the intention of our maker. Man was supposed to make every effort to spread his seed far and wide and the more powerful the man was the further afield his genes would end up.

The world is in a mess. It needs a clean reinstall not just a reboot.

This is really true. I have suppressed myself for way too long. Now, a cheongster as long as I can sustain, financially after setting aside household and savings.

I'll just take it as a way to release, so I can continue to work and provide for family.

[danilov]

Originally Posted by alleycat

After a while of cheonging, indeed I do not feel so bad after all. I still return home as a loving husband and doting father. I’ll just treat this GL thing as my side hobby. In fact, I go to GL only once every 3 months, when I figured I really needed ‘professional help’.

Just sharing my story. I believe a lot of guys face the same issue as I do.

Many chiongsters are in the same category as you. Though mass media like to potray all as perverts, but really most are ordinary people seeking an outlet. Get it out of the system helps to de-stress and in fact allows most to go about their lives better. Like therapy.

Just don't catch any std or get "caught"

[miumiu6464]

It started with lust. But, if not for sbf, I guess I'll live the life of a "normal" person. As it is, found SBF when there's still newsgroup (soc.culture.singapore) in mid 1990s and all health broke loose from then.

[Hytronic]

Never thought of divorce ? I'm facing the shit too for years liao.

Originally Posted by alleycat

This is really true. I have suppressed myself for way too long. Now, a cheongster as long as I can sustain, financially after setting aside household and savings.

I'll just take it as a way to release, so I can continue to work and provide for family.

[miumiu6464]

2 kids. Maybe divorce is not a viable option.