Other Methods of Loving Someone

[makeyouhappy]

Go bros and sis,

For the usual couple and even friends, there's usually 5 ways we show our love and accept the love of others (touch, words, time, gifts, service).

I meet someone recently who has a very special INFP personality type and she is someone who acts and lives her life completely differently from all other girls I know. She fascinates me to no end and I freely admit I'm infatuated with her, thoroughly.

However, she's a very private person, she shuns the limelight and attention, and she very rarely opens up to others.

Whenever she's willing to share some of her troubles with me, I have this terrible want to solve her problems for her, to support and love her, to let her know I'm there for her.

Unfortunately, all these only makes her feel I'm coming on too strongly and it pressures her.

I need help. What can I do instead? Anyone else with similar experience?

[porscheclub]

Don't know what is INFP but from your descriptions, she is a complicated person & let me tell you honestly from experience. A female with complex character & mood swings is the last person on earth you'll want to love because she'll just drain your life away.

You're in the infatuation stage, it is one-sided affair, your side. But if you can move her & be her earth-shattering man in life then congratulations because you just found a woman who'll worship you when she falls in love with you.

Before that. Try to understand her more & see what game she's playing. Men are always intrigued by the suspense & play-hard-to-get feeling from women, don't fall too deep & you'll be fine. Have fun fishing & good luck!

Btw, the Art in fishing is not pulling hard. You bait, you wait, she tug, u pull & let go, pull & let go then reel-in hard once the bite is strong & even that u need to weigh the prize as your line ($, time, love) might break. Sometimes we cut the line if the prize is not worthwhile.

[makeyouhappy]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

A female with complex character & mood swings is the last person on earth you'll want to love because she'll just drain your life away.

You sure sound like you have experience xD

I won't deny it. You're totally right. It's also part of my design fault that I find independent, complex, but seemingly vulnerable women my absolute weakness.

I used to want someone who was a little similar and it tore me apart in the end. This round I'm heading eyes wide open, and .. Well, I don't intend to actually WANT a romantic relationship with her.

[Boinkboinkboink]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

But if you can move her & be her earth-shattering man in life then congratulations because you just found a woman who'll worship you when she falls in love with you.

Well, even with all those if she is of complex character & mood swings, stay clear.

[johnl]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Don't know what is INFP but from your descriptions, she is a complicated person & let me tell you honestly from experience. A female with complex character & mood swings is the last person on earth you'll want to love because she'll just drain your life away.

You're in the infatuation stage, it is one-sided affair, your side. But if you can move her & be her earth-shattering man in life then congratulations because you just found a woman who'll worship you when she falls in love with you.

Before that. Try to understand her more & see what game she's playing. Men are always intrigued by the suspense & play-hard-to-get feeling from women, don't fall too deep & you'll be fine. Have fun fishing & good luck!

Btw, the Art in fishing is not pulling hard. You bait, you wait, she tug, u pull & let go, pull & let go then reel-in hard once the bite is strong & even that u need to weigh the prize as your line ($, time, love) might break. Sometimes we cut the line if the prize is not worthwhile.

Well Said!

[viviankoh]

The truth is when a woman fall in love. She behaves like a little girl. She will do small little things for u. She basically loves you for everything. Even when u are your at your worst .
True love is unconditional. That is my view.

[korean]

Originally Posted by viviankoh

The truth is when a woman fall in love. She behaves like a little girl. She will do small little things for u. She basically loves you for everything. Even when u are your at your worst .
True love is unconditional. That is my view.

Any advice how to make that woman dont love me anymore (or love me less) besides letting her know I love someone else

[viviankoh]

Originally Posted by korean

Any advice how to make that woman dont love me anymore (or love me less) besides letting her know I love someone else

But if it's true love, so easy to waiver meh? This one i cant advice

[korean]

Originally Posted by viviankoh

But if it's true love, so easy to waiver meh? This one i cant advice

Yes I know it is not easy that why I ask. What I may try is become a small white face and borrow money from her. Let see if I success

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by makeyouhappy

Whenever she's willing to share some of her troubles with me, I have this terrible want to solve her problems for her, to support and love her, to let her know I'm there for her.

well being there for her is more than enough.
sometimes they dont want us to provide a helping hand, at most just a listening ear.

if she's an independent lady, she will solve her own problems.
but do remember everyone has their own baggage, make sure those issues do not become yours else it will be a emotionally draining experience for you.
and the worst part is the possibility that you might end up being friend zone by her.

[viviankoh]

Originally Posted by korean

Yes I know it is not easy that why I ask. What I may try is become a small white face and borrow money from her. Let see if I success

Aiyoh. No comments. I pity her.

[ProjectAlice]

Originally Posted by viviankoh

The truth is when a woman fall in love. She behaves like a little girl. She will do small little things for u. She basically loves you for everything. Even when u are your at your worst .
True love is unconditional. That is my view.

Alice view is same ka ...

[Maxlion]

Originally Posted by viviankoh

The truth is when a woman fall in love. She behaves like a little girl. She will do small little things for u. She basically loves you for everything. Even when u are your at your worst .
True love is unconditional. That is my view.

Well said...

[viviankoh]

Originally Posted by ProjectAlice

Alice view is same ka ...

Hugs dearie great minds think alike. I also like one guy but i have not revealed to him. Hmm....

[ProjectAlice]

Originally Posted by viviankoh

Hugs dearie great minds think alike. I also like one guy but i have not revealed to him. Hmm....

Jaa ... hugs hugs + jub jub 555
me too ka ... Alice not tell him yet na ...